Happy feelings can reach us in many different ways but according to science and various studies, in the end it really only comes down to one thing. What really matters in life (and what actually increases happy feelings more than anything else) is the connection you have and build with other people.
Feeling happy and fulfilled in life is very much about having nurturing relationships. In fact many other things we try to achieve and obtain by possessions or achievements are only means to get more, and probably more meaningful, relationships. Don’t believe that holds any truth? Behold the list of regrets by people who were interviewed in the final days of their life.
THE REGRETS OF THE DYING
1. I wish I had not worked so hard and had been able to spend more time with my family.
2. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
3. I wish I had lived a life true to myself instead of what others expected from me.
4. I wish I had let myself be happier
5. I wish I had had the courage to express myself more.
Consider these regrets when you are looking to embrace your life with more meaning and happiness. We would like to think: better late than never and better safe than sorry!
Other things that really contribute to a deep sense of happiness are listed below.
Scientists have found that being kind to others produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise they had tested. We read that 2 hours a week will do the trick, and this can range from volunteering work to caring for your parents or helping friends.
Spending money on others also increases more feelings of well being than spending money on ourselves.
GO OUT AND SMELL THE AIR
Our busy lives have removed us far from our original source of life: nature. Nature has a relaxing and soothing effect on people and spending 20 minutes outside each day helps massively. Fresh air improves our brain function, focus, clarity and boosts happy feelings.
This is a no brainer. When you’re tired you get grumpy, right? So getting the right amount of snooze is very important to your happiness. When you sleep your body recovers and repairs itself and being well rested also means you’ll have more focus. Some interesting brain facts on how lack of sleep can affect your positivity completes the picture:
Negative stimuli get processed by a part of your brain that is call the amygdala; positive or neutral memories get processed by the hippocampus. Sleep deprivation hinders the hippocampus more than the amygdala which might explain why people who are sleep deprived find it difficult to recall pleasant memories but can summon unpleasant memories without a problem.
SPEND TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS
As mentioned above, building nurturing relationships is essential to our well being. So connect and stay in touch with the people that matter and make the effort to spend time together regularly.
TAKE ME TIME
Make the time to connect to your inner self. To find the tranquility and peace to do so you could practice yoga, meditate or just simply take a stroll outside. This helps you to know who you are, what is really important to you personally and will also help you realize what you want out of life.
A simple expression of gratitude actually increases your happiness levels instantly. And there are really easy ways to do this.
Keep a journal and list 3 things that you’ve encountered during your day that you may be grateful for. Another way is showing gratitude to the people who have helped you. And a daily reflection of the things you can be grateful for in life, in bed just before you go to sleep can also be a quick and easy way. Realizing and addressing gratitude will focus you on positive things in your life and that is the one habit you need for more happiness.
The benefits from exercise are plenty. Exercise can help you relax, increase brain power, improve your body image regardless of losing weight and it helps release endorphins the happy hormones. And don’t say you don’t have the time to do it. Even the 7 MINUTE WORK OUT backed up by science, and originally published by the New York Times, will help you on your way.